Help! How do I evict Brother-In-Law? - Landlord Forum thread 136324

Help! How do I evict Brother-In-Law? by Anonymous on February 1, 2007 @08:31

In May 2005 my brother-in-law came to stay with us after he left his girlfriend and moved out of her apartment. In March 2006 we told him that he had to move by April 30, 2006. Then he lost his job the last week of April and we did not enforce the move. In December 2006, we told my brother-in-law once again that he had to move and gave him the move out date of January 31, 2007. My husband informed me last night that my brother-in-law has not found another place to stay yet and will stay with us for another two or three more weeks. Needless to say I do not agree with this. The fact is that my brother-in-law knows since last year spring we want him to move. I feel that he had ample time to find another place to live. Plus I do not believe my brother-in-law is really making other living arrangements. Once again he is without a job and does nothing besides sleep all day. There is no rental agreement and he does not pay any rent or utilities. He doesn’t even pay for the food for his dog. He doesn't do anything to help around the house or property. What can I do to get him out of our house? Thank you in advance for your help. Love, Peace and Happiness Hanni

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Re: Help! How do I evict Brother-In-Law? by Phillip in WNY on February 1, 2007 @10:27	[ Reply ]

Make sure your notice of non-renew and termination are in writing before sending them to him again and enforce it for once. Evict if necessary

Re: Help! How do I evict Brother-In-Law? by Anonymous on February 1, 2007 @12:17	[ Reply ]

Is your husband willing to help get rid of his brother? It doesn't really sound like it. (Your husband was the one who told you he was staying a few more months.) He has been there 20 months now? This man is not looking for work, not helping pay for bills, not doing anything. He's gotten used to you taking care of him. First, have a frank discussion with your husband. Tell him you will not stand for a few more months. Tell him you absolutely want this freeloader out (don't use those words!). Then the two of you confront this man together. Give him a SHORT deadline, in writing, and STICK TO IT. Tell him if he's not out by X date, the dog goes to the pound, his stuff will be on the lawn, and you will have him arrested as a trespasser. (He has no agreement with you and no right to be there.) Then if he's not out by then, put the dog in a cage and drive it to the pound. Start putting his things outside. When he sees you are serious, he will leave. I have a relative that did the same thing. She took in her grandson (for just a short time). He's been there years now. He lives in her basement, rarely works, has moved in his girlfriend, and now has a baby there too. She won't put him out & he's too comfortable to leave on his own. I expect him to live there until she dies. Then what will he do with no one buying food or paying for the utilities? You will actually be doing your brother-in-law a favor. He needs to live in the real world!

Re: Are there any legal guidelines for the state of GA by Anonymous on February 1, 2007 @17:27

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I have had my third stroke less than two weeks ago and feel I shouldn't even have to deal with this...

My current plan is to give me brother-in-law a written notice that he will have to vacate the premises by Feb. 15, 2007. After that his belongings will be removed from our house.

The dog, I actually want to keep. Since my bil has not cared for him and left the feeding, washing and taking the dog to the vet (and of course paying for it), I feel the dog belongs to me and I want him to stay.

Are there any legal guidelines I must follow or be aware of? If so where can I find the information?

Thank you for all the help you have giving me so far. Any advise is really appreciated.

Love, Peace and Happiness

Hanni

Help! How do I evict Brother-In-Law? by Anonymous on February 1, 2007 @23:05	[ Reply ]

Hanni, sorry to hear about your stroke. Even more sorry to hear that your husband is not being more supportive. He married you richer, poorer, sickness health....... Tell him what needs to be done then make him do it

Re: Thank You by Anonymous on February 2, 2007 @19:36

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Thank you for the advise

I just wrote him the following letter:

Dear xxxx:
Since you have not come and talked to me about your situation, I feel I have no choice but to write you this letter.
First, I want to make clear to you that I love you and I don’t want to be mean or heartless when to you. You may not see it this way but I only want what is best for you and of course for us.
You are living with us now since May 2005 and it was meant to be a temporary solution. We offered you a place to stay so you could regroup, save some money and get a place of your own. We wanted to provide a stepping stone and help to get some of the hurdles out of the way.
Unfortunately, by letting you stay here for so long, we haven’t helped you at all - we have been giving you an easy way out. We have enabled you to live without any personal responsibilities.

You know since March 2005 that we wanted you to move. Since then you had more than enough time to find a place to live. At the beginning of 2007, I told you that you needed to move by the end of January 2007. Not only did you disregard my wishes but you didn’t even talk to me about your plans.
I have spoken with xxxx and decided to extend your stay for one last time until February 15, 2007. On that day I expect you to leave this house and return the house keys. It’s not a pressing matter yet, but you will have to think what you are going to do with your vehicle.
I wish you the best for you future
Love,

Love, Peace and Happiness

Hanni