Ex girlfriend living can I ask for rent. - Landlord Forum thread 346738

Ex girlfriend living can I ask for rent. by Greg (New Mexico ) on July 25, 2016 @00:47

My ex girlfriend lives with me and has since feb/March. When she moved in I did not ask for rent as she just stayed home and took care of the house and dogs. We have since broken up...but I'm planning to move my new girlfriend in in September.
We agreed she would be out November but I'm wondering if I can ask her to leave earlier?
Also We talked about rent but since she was only working part time she said it wasn't something she could do.
Now she is working full time and I'm wondering what I can ask for.
Can I just give her 30 days notice in the state of New Mexico ?

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Re: Ex girlfriend living can I ask for rent. by Garry (Iowa) on July 25, 2016 @09:14	[ Reply ]

Have you ever heard the old saying, " never mix business with pleasure" ? That's what you are doing here. DON'T DO IT. It will backfire on you. Either treat her as a total tenant, with her paying rent from day 1, and staying in her own room------or treat her as if you are married to her---she pays no rent, and sleeps with you. Both your incomes (no matter how much each one is) go into 1 pot, and all expenses are paid out of it. Do not try to do things halfway between those 2 scenarios.

Re: Ex girlfriend living can I ask for rent. by AnonymousFL on July 25, 2016 @12:58	[ Reply ]

I don't think you need our advice to talk to her. You guys agrees on November, so try to reach a new agreement. She didn't pay rent before because she didn't have a full time job. Now she does, so try to reach a new agreement. Her having a full time job will make it easier for her to move on since whe will be in a better place. Just keep the conversation as cordial as possible and try to work things out. You can try to evict her from the unit, but you will be in for some severe blow-back...and it will be so much worse since youa re living WITH her at the time. I suggest not going that route unless she does not leave when she says she will or if she does something bad towards you. If either of those things does happen, at least you ahve cause to take action.